

THE ALPHABET OF
MODERN BELONGING


The Book by Aga Sieradzka
Founder and BELONGING@WORK Strategist
With a deep understanding of workplace dynamics, Aga leads the efforts in revolutionizing work environments to prioritize employee connectedness, modern sense of belonging and organizational success.
Aga is a growth mentor for those who want to build an agency around belonging to circles of own aspirations. In her coaching remit, she specializes in guiding her executive clients through life transitions, providing psychological safety nets to explore the past and to visualize the future, yet staying anchored in the present. She summarizes her experience this way:
Today, we are plagued by a loneliness epidemic, the mental crisis that spans the entire globe from children to adults. This stress “does not care” if the epidemic is globally announced, if you have a diagnosis. This stress does not discriminate.
Most people struggle not only with the overwhelm, exhaustion, and/or stress in their day to day lives – they struggle with lack of vocabulary to name their problem and constructively ask for help.
Thus, that burning loneliness is not about an acute, incidental break up with a new partner or, more pronounced, losing a family member due to an age related illness.
It is about that lasting and disturbing sense of discomfort behind not having anyone who stays behind our backs, to support us to protect us, not knowing the rules of the game – suspecting that a threat may come from anywhere. It is about alienation and non belonging.
I was one of these people.
Yet, at that time, I never described myself as someone with trauma of non-belonging, especially when compared to victims of traumatic and accidental losses of loved ones, representatives of minorities that happen to be alienated and discriminated throughout generations, or illegal immigrants. (Note that my legal rights and permits to perform work in a new location were never in question.)
Nevertheless, dealing with alienation and loneliness that becomes the integral part and price of expatriates’ careers, the experience of energy depletion and exhaustion - they ruled every aspect of my life. I rationalized it and downplayed. I settled for survival, simply choosing to get by.
As a single woman, I believed in the organizational narrative of “belonging”: work peers were told to be my tribe, my bosses were presenting themselves as parental “knowing-what-is-best” figures, claiming the power of inclusion in line with the corporate DEI slogans.
That misconception and nearly-forced belief brought me to falling into the suffering of non-belonging, having experienced the traumatic depth of “invisibility” burnout, being the result of organizational indifference and corporate loneliness.
It does not have to be your fate!
The debut book “The Alphabet of Belonging” is about shaping and strengthening the belonging muscle – from A to Z. It is also the outcome of the Autor's own transformative journey, dealing with loneliness that becomes the price of expatriates’ careers. She is a survivor of the “invisibility” burnout, being the result of organizational indifference around non belonging and loneliness: the “illusion of inclusion”.
Yet she did not give up. She has transformed her own trauma into personal growth, by challenging her beliefs, assumptions and behavioral patterns of response – including avoidance mechanisms – and confronting that experience with the findings of the most recent social, and behavioral science, as well as neuro-/biology.